Book Review: Atomic Attraction
by Christopher Canwell

If you know me, you know I’ve been on a journey—not just to “find a man,” but to connect deeply with someone who makes me feel safe, seen, and hugged when I’m sad.

Me want mate? No. I’m well past “mating season.” What I want now is a companion who’ll hold my hand... and maybe my butt. Let's be honest.

The Setup

When we first started book club, I was smitten with a very attractive man. Sparks flew—fast and hot—and then… nothing.

Poof. Vanished. Ghosted.

I was left feeling confused, alone, and more than a little heartbroken.

What had gone wrong? Could I learn to prevent it in the future?

So naturally, I did what any woman with access to Kindle Unlimited and a book club would do—I started reading. I devoured The Mistress Manual, Dark Feminine Energy, and other juicy titles, not just to learn how to attract a man—but how to keep the right one.

Here’s what I took from that phase:

Be soft.

Be magnetic.

Detach.

Great tools, but I found myself attracting men I didn’t actually want.

Then we read another round of love stories and romance novels, and I broke. I re-downloaded the dating apps, convinced that someone like me should and could find love again.

And sure—I matched with plenty of “on-paper perfect” men: tall, handsome, successful, smart, funny. But when we met in person?

Flat.
Nothing.
Zero spark.

Was I just shallow? Too picky?

That didn’t track—because I’d been insanely attracted to men who objectively weren’t “perfect” by society’s standards. (Example: trailer-dwelling, bad teeth. Still hot to me. Make it make sense.)

The Mystery of Attraction

I had to figure it out. Was I broken? Could I only be attracted to chaos? Or was there something deeper at play?

Enter Atomic Attraction.

This book is technically written for men—to help them attract and keep women—but reading it as a woman?

Mind. Blown.

It helped me understand my own wiring in a way I hadn’t before.

What I Learned About Myself

Here are my big, brutally honest takeaways:

1. I’m attracted to a man who dresses with intention

He doesn’t have to be flashy—but please, don’t look like you just rolled out of bed. Effort is sexy.

2. I want confidence and decisiveness
Take the lead. Make the plans. Pay the bill. Grab my hand and walk like you mean it.

3. Too much attention turns me off
If a man is constantly texting or always available, I lose interest. I need space to miss him.

4. I like a man with edge
A little arrogance, a little dominance… the kind of energy that could pin me to a wall if needed. (Sorry, Mom.)

5. I need a man in motion
Sitting around isn’t sexy. Hustle, movement, purpose—yes, please.

6. I want to serve—ugh, I said it
This was hard to admit. But I like making a man feel cared for, even more than I like being cared for in return.

The Bigger Picture

As I write this, I realize how obvious it sounds. But in today’s culture, many men are afraid to fully own their masculinity. And as a result, we’re all swimming in a sea of tepid, confused interactions where polarity is missing.

My recommendation?

Give this book to your sons. Your husbands. Your confused single male friends. Not because they need to “man up” in the caveman sense—but because we’re starving for grounded, intentional masculine energy.

One Note of Caution:

The last few chapters get a bit... extra. But the core concepts are GOLD.

If you're trying to understand attraction—what it is, why it's there, and how to create it—I can't recommend Atomic Attraction enough.

Till next time —
Happy Reading,
Marsha