In Get a Life, Chloe Brown, the main character, Chloe, has a near-death experience that causes her to stop and reflect. She wonders what her obituary might say—and realizes she hasn’t truly lived yet. That moment inspires her to create a list of things she wants to do, starting with moving out of her parents' house.

The book is well written, with some compelling themes. However, as a group of married women—many of us mothers—Chloe’s list felt a bit unrelatable. Her goals seemed simple, even juvenile, to us:

Move out

Go camping

Ride on a motorbike

Have meaningless sex

Travel the world with only a handbag

Most of us have already done some version of these things years ago, and unfortunately, it didn’t spark any strong memories or connections for me personally.

But… one part really stood out.

I loved the concept of writing a list of dreams, especially in connection to how we’d want to be remembered. It got me thinking—and I hope it does the same for you.

So, whether you read the book or not, consider this:

How do you want to be remembered?

Who do you want at your funeral?

What would be something truly special you’d love to hear said about you—or something meaningful you’d want your children to hear?

And a few deeper prompts:

If one stranger spoke at your funeral about how you impacted their life, who would that person be? What did you do for them?

If reality wasn’t a factor and you could do one thing, where would you go? What would you see, who would you meet, and what would you do?

In the book, Chloe meets someone who ends up being key in helping her fulfill her list. Are you someone who’s open to receiving help to reach your goals? Why or why not? Is there anyone you’d refuse help from? Why?

Chloe’s list wasn’t extravagant, but it was realistic —and that’s powerful. She also had medical challenges that kept her from living the way she wanted for much of her life. We all have our own limitations, but maybe, just maybe, being open to help is the first step toward turning more of our dreams into reality.